Networking for SWEs: virtual & in-person networking events

Networking isn’t easy for many software engineers. It can feel awkward or even uncomfortable to start a conversation with strangers. But the tech industry is highly collaborative, and many job opportunities, especially in coveted roles or companies, come through networking and connections. Networking helps you find job leads, stay up-to-date with trends, and learn from others’ experiences. It can also open doors to mentorship and new opportunities.

Here are some simple tips and example questions to help you make real connections—whether you're at a virtual or in-person event.

Tips for navigating networking events

Networking events can be a mix of quick chats, group discussions, and sometimes longer, in-depth conversations. Whether it’s a virtual session or an in-person meetup, you’ll find people at different stages of their careers looking to share experiences, insights, and opportunities. It can feel overwhelming at first, but knowing how to approach these situations can make a big difference. 

Here are some simple tips to help you start conversations, build connections, and make the most of these events:

1. Approach with confidence: First impressions count. Walk up to someone with a smile and a friendly demeanor. If you're in person, a firm handshake (when appropriate) can help establish rapport. Remember, people respond positively to those who exude confidence.
2. Start with small talk: Break the ice with easy topics. Mention the event, the venue, or a shared interest you might have noticed. This helps ease both parties into a more comfortable conversation.
3. Ask open-ended questions: Instead of sticking to yes-or-no questions, go deeper. For example, instead of asking, "Do you attend these events often?" try, "What brought you to this event today?" Open-ended questions create opportunities for more engaging and insightful discussions.
4. Listen actively: This might be the most crucial skill in networking. Show genuine interest in what the other person is saying. Maintain eye contact, nod, and ask follow-up questions to demonstrate you're fully engaged.
5. Find common ground: Discover shared interests or experiences to build a connection. It could be a mutual hobby, professional goal, or even a challenge you've both faced in your careers.
6. Share your own experiences: Networking is a two-way street. While it’s essential to listen, don't be afraid to share a bit about yourself too. This builds trust and makes the conversation feel more balanced.
7. Respect their time: Pay attention to cues that the person might be ready to move on. If they seem distracted or mention they need to speak with someone else, thank them for the conversation and gracefully step away.
8. Exchange contact information: If the conversation went well, suggest exchanging LinkedIn profiles or contact information. This opens the door for future interaction.
9. Follow up: Within a day or two, send a brief email or LinkedIn message referencing your conversation. Express your appreciation for the chat, and if relevant, suggest ways you might help or collaborate in the future.

Networking is about building real connections, so be yourself and show genuine interest.

The power of great questions: What to ask while networking

Asking good questions is key to making any networking conversation more engaging. The right questions can help you learn more, find common ground, and make a lasting impression. Below are some questions tailored for different situations to help you start meaningful conversations and keep them going:

Job-specific questions:

• What does a typical day look like for you?
• What’s the most challenging part of your job?
• How do you overcome those challenges?
• What would you change about your job if you could?
• Do you have any advice for someone who wants a similar job?

Company-specific questions:

• What does your company do, and where is it located?
• How would you describe your company's culture?
• What professional development opportunities does your company offer?
• What is the most unique thing about your company?

Career-specific questions:

• What made you choose this career path?
• What is the most rewarding part of your career?
• What do you wish you knew when you first started?
• Where do you see yourself five years from now?

Productivity-specific questions:

• How do you stay organized at work?
• What tools or software do you use to boost productivity?
• Do you have any routines that help increase your efficiency?
• What’s the best piece of advice you've received on productivity?

How-to-get-hired questions:

• What do you look for in a candidate during the hiring process?
• What interview tips do you have for someone applying to your company?
• What skills do you think are most important for success in this field?

Event-specific questions:

• What brought you to this event today?
• Are there specific people you’re hoping to meet here?
• Have you attended similar events before? How did they go?
• How can I help you meet your networking goals at this event?

Remember, networking is a two-way street

When networking, it's easy to focus on what you might get out of it. But the best connections come from offering help, too. It could be introducing someone to a contact, sharing a useful resource, or just being there to listen. When you approach networking with a genuine interest in supporting others, you build relationships that last and can help you throughout your career. Good luck out there!

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